What are some good ways to develop a thick skin?

I%26#039;m sick of dealing with certain people who likes to start drama and say certain things to just make me upset. I%26#039;m used to giving people the impression that I don%26#039;t stand up for myself enough, or I%26#039;m %26quot;too sensitive%26quot;. What are some ways to develop think skin without becoming a fighter and being mature about it?|||What you first need to do is PRETEND not to be bothered.





This has two effects: if they don%26#039;t get a rise out of you, it%26#039;s less fun; the pretending helps you feel less and less in response.





There are times to respond. Do so in a controlled way. Pause, and let their stupid remark sort of hang in the air for some time; then very quietly say something back -- something bland %26quot;Is that what you think?%26quot; %26quot;What do you mean by that?%26quot;





The idea is to take the wind out of their sails, and embarrass them.





People SAYING something doesn%26#039;t make it true; try to remember this.|||Laugh with them or make jokes about yourself with whatever they say. Their goal is to get a negative response out of you and that%26#039;s it because for some reason it makes them feel good.





Example





%26quot;It hurts my face to even look at you, your%26#039;e so ugly%26quot;.





You: %26quot;Don%26#039;t blame me, blame my parents%26quot; or %26quot;It hurts me too, that%26#039;s why I get ready with the lights out%26quot; or %26quot;Then look somewhere else%26quot;.





Either way, just find a way to have fun with it. People like and find respect in good comebacks from what I found out and they either leave you alone or start to really like you. I%26#039;ve found that some people like that are really lonely inside and at that age we%26#039;re all too immature to understand it so it%26#039;s replaced with trying to fill a void by making people mad. You might make a good friend out of it, as weird as that sounds. I know I did a few times.





By doing this enough, you appear to others it doesn%26#039;t bother you with what they say which =%26#039;s you having tough skin.|||well it simple 1st you need to be calm,patent,learn to take %26#039;no%26#039; or other negative answer,don%26#039;t take thing too personally that just scream %26#039;I%26#039;m a drama queen/king!%26#039; that not cool you got to be calculating(not too much ppl might stay away from you for acting as insensitive fool),don%26#039;t self-talk cause that would make you look stupid,don%26#039;t quickly blame someone that mean think before you act,and don%26#039;t be afraid to ask stupid question|||Remember that these are people who spend their time trying to get under your skin and make you feel selfconscious to distract from their insecurities. Ignore these people, they will never be worth your time.





Once you become more mature and realize what life, love and tolerance is all about, then you will see what losers these people were and how wasting your time on them was a loss of life.|||Its not just think skin ^_~ you have to learn that people who doesnt care about you, shouldn%26#039;t matter to you ^_^ If they don%26#039;t care about your feelings, I am guessing they aren%26#039;t much of a friend or friends to you hehe, hence, they shouldn%26#039;t matter ^^|||not reacting to stuff immediately keep your cool but if someone takes advantage of you keep your distance from them or just make them know you know you dont have to revenge or be nasty but make them know you aint dumb|||surround yourself by positive ppl.





dont hang around ppl that just want to put you down.


hang around educated ppl that generally care about you.